Want peace? Find unity within yourself, first.
A word that keeps coming up to me this week is the word unity.
This unity is unity within ourselves. What do I mean by this? Clients that I work with have some sort of struggle. It is a struggle between where they want to be (or what they want their life to look like) compared to where they actually are.
This is a discourse in unity. When this happens, we spend significant time and energy trying to make the two match – our desired state, and our reality. We can often spend so much time thinking about how to make them match, that we actually go into overdrive trying to solve the problem.
I often hear - I am thinking too much or I can’t calm my mind. We typically look for an answer elsewhere. What are others doing? What can we learn? This is helpful, but most people miss the most important step - looking inside themselves.
There are two places information comes from. The first is what I call your head thinking, or your thoughts, and the second is your knowing center, your intuition or gut. Tapping into your knowing center is being in touch with what is really important to you as a person, if you were to strip away all outside influences.
I see several challenges in finding unity within – and offer some solutions.
I don’t know. Sometimes when I ask people what they want for themselves, they don’t know or aren’t sure.
Solution: Start first with what you do know now at this moment, while checking in with your center (not your head). Then, what is the next best step to take at this moment? Visualizing the desired end result can help.
I don’t know how to get there. You may know what you want, but don’t know how to get there.
Solution: Transformation takes time. Regularly tapping into your knowing center is a new muscle to be exercised on a regular basis for it to grow stronger. The more this happens, the easier it is to listen and be guided by your inner self. Then, take action to have it match your outer self and how you show up in the world to create unity.
I know what I want and have some fear about it. Making a change can be hard and sometimes scary. Staying within your comfort zone, even if it doesn’t feel right, will not get you to follow your inner self and who you were meant to be using all your gifts. Regularly checking the information you have from both your head thinking and your knowing center and taking the best next step will have to get you there one moment at a time.
The first step is recognition. How satisfied are you with your life?
You are here for a reason. You were here to make a difference on this earth in a way that most matters to you and uses your unique gifts. Unity is when you’re able to do this by being big, being bold and living your life by being the absolute you.