The Real Reason for Your Indecision and How to Move Past it.

I am working on a project and noticed that my activity stalled. I waited, looking for inspiration, motivation and a clear answer as to what to do next. Sometimes this pause helps me, but in this case it is not. I have hesitated, and waited, for days.

Time to employ what I use with clients and coach myself (yes, I do this quite often). When given the opportunity to move forward, the thing that most often is causing the hesitation is….

Self-doubt.

Here are the steps I went through to clear my self-doubt, move me onto the next step and, more importantly, clear clutter that is stopping me from being my best self.

Revisit your why. Revisit why this goal is important to you. And I don’t mean a “surface” why like “to make money”, but why does it bring meaning to your life and others.

Name your limiting beliefs. What beliefs about yourself are holding you back right now in regard to this project (or that are on your mind currently)? Write them all down. Format: I believe I am ____________ or I believe that ____________.

Choose your "instead". For each limiting belief, write down it’s opposite – what you can choose to believe instead. Format: I am letting go of (old belief) and instead I believe ____________. Go into detail. What would you say to a friend who had this same non-serving thought? Why are you choosing to believe this instead?

Create your confirmations. Shorten each of these “instead” statements into a punchier reminder about your choice and new belief. I am _________ because ___________.

Take action or visualize letting go. Burn your old beliefs. Visualize handing them off and letting them go. Help your brain to assimilate moving on.

Now, with self-doubt removed, determine your best next step and do it today.

Final thought:

In everything you do, grip loosely. Follow your internal compass, have fun. Dream big and problem solve how to get there. When you feel torn, don’t let it tear you – pick a side, decide, and know that you made the right choice because there is a benefit and learning in all activity. It is called being alive.